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A Bikini Wax For Prom? Am I missing something?
As I was talking to my sister today who was a bit worried because her one year old had just eaten crayon and she wondered would get stuck in his digestive track?
I was trying to tell her that’s nothing my 18 year old daughter is getting a bikini wax for Prom Tonight? A bikini wax for Prom?
Prom is one of those events in a child’s life that brings countless inner feelings to the surface. It’s such an emotional roller coaster, you have excitement for this milestone, just a few weeks away from high school graduation, and she will soon be off to college. The happiness you feel for your child, the friendships made, the goals accomplished, and the hurdles she has crossed and been able to grow from. Then you feel a wave of panic, sadness, uncertainness. You want to wrap her back in your arms where you know she will be safe; you want to warn her without limiting her, to caution her with out taking away her curiosity
When I became pregnant with my first child 20 years ago I needed to read every parenting book, magazine, and pamphlet that I could wrangle my nervous hands around. Maybe our parents had Dr. Spock but our generation we needed more, we brought our babies home from the hospital with such anxiety, worry, and self-doubt. My parents seemed to just parent, no books, just naturally, easy, successfully, and now I have found nothing teaches like your own life of parenting. You can only know and learn from being down in the trenches and dealing with it each day.
So as I sit here today and ponder where did the time go, how could it be that I was just teaching my daughter to look both ways as she crossed the street, and today I’m talking to her about don’t let anyone spike your drink..UGH!…Sex, Drugs, Abuse, Dumb Mistakes…and yes she is rolling her eyes, but I know she is listening…
Fred G. Gosman put it so well in his book, “How to be a happy parent ..in spite of your children!
“Finding the perfect balance is getting harder and harder. We need to teach our children to be cautious with out imparting fear, to lean right from wrong with out being judgmental, to be assertive but not pushy, to stick to routines with out sacrificing spontaneity, and to be determined but not stubborn.”
So as my daughter rushes off to get her bikini wax for prom, I feel secure in the person she has grown into. I have set down some rules because I love her enough to do so. Parenting is not an art or science, I have sweated through 18 years of love, tears, worry, and joy. She has eared the freedom of responsibility. Tonight I will try to worry less and trust her to use her own instincts. UGH!! I wonder if I should right that ten more times…..
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Yeah, I’m sure she’ll never forgive you for posting this. So what does it matter. Hopefully it’s one of 2 things anyways; they’ll go to a pool party after, or she just wants to be groomed head to toe. Whatever. And next time Beth, BOLD, means yelling. So don’t yell so loud. It’s already obvious that this is traumatic. I have one too asking a boy to prom today. Deep breath. We’ll get through it. Our moms did.
I’m 25 and when I tell my mom about my social plans she STILL tells me to watch my drink…It will never get old.
I had my first bikini wax when I was 17 b/c I was self conscious in a bathing suit, not because I necessarily *needed* it. Your daughter could just be jumping on the wagon with her friends – I remember thinking it made me so grown up!
Hope she has (or had) a great time! I know you’ll take lots of photos
At times like this, I think (I have a 19 yo who just finished her first year of college at UW-Madison) we need to realize how great our relationships are with our kids that they feel comfortable enough sharing these parts of their lives with us.
Yes it’s difficult, I think of it as ‘telling me everything I never wanted to know, but I ‘need’ to know’. lol cuz I’m hearing the same kinds of things… hope this feeling goes away someday….
Vicky @eeus
That must be tough. Though my children are younger than yours, I also found that I had less resources than the moms with younger children now. The best resources I can find for parenting my soon-to-be-teenagers is reading parents who have gone before me. Thanks for insight and sharing your thought. Those of us with slightly younger children certainly appreciate it!
Sounds like her “instincts” are telling her she’s going to get laid after prom. Hence the bikini wax. But, she is 18 years old after all. And isn’t that really the mission of prom anyway?
Yikes. I am so glad I have a boy.
Prom is a time where parents worry so much more than just a simple wax, and it’s one of those life moments that as we grow we reflect on too…
Hi Beth:
I loved your post. Yes, Bikini Wax for prom! There is so much letting go at this time for us Mom’s.
We look on with pride and joy and we take a deep breath and TRUST that they will know how to take care of themselves…… hoping we helped them learn the lessons they needed to know.